Year 2013 is knocking on the door of our lives, ready to come in. Whether you have written down your goals for 2013 or you are yet to write it, it is important that you have deep emotional commitment to the goals you set. I am talking of commitment that is similar to a wedding vow: “Do you, Ola, take your goals for health, wealth, personal, and social achievement for better or worse… promise to love, honor and cherish these goals… as long as you live?” Very strong promise; and you have to make it if you plan on succeeding in 2013.
You need to love your goals, in fact; you have to ‘marry’ your goals. J.That is a very strong promise you and I will make in 2013. The way you behave towards your goals is just as important as behaving well in a marriage; the honeymoon period is exciting. Just as one chooses a spouse, you have chosen your goals. As you are making plans and taking action for the future, remember to visualize the benefits you will gain from your efforts such as plenty money, luxury cars, beautiful homes, new friends, good education for your children/ward, better health, new friends – name it!
The best part is when any specific goal is actually achieved and you and your family receive the financial, personal, physical, and social benefits. But what makes your goal achievable? Your behavior, your attitude, your conduct!
Do you recognize any of the following tendencies?
1. Procrastination
The number one behavior that will end any ‘goal marriage’ is procrastination. My favorite quote from one of my mentors is “Procrastination is the thief of dreams.” Please give this potential ‘thief’ of your goals due recognition so that you can deal with it and stop it from divorcing you from your dreams.
Of course, like everyone of us, you will have tasks which you will find difficult or distasteful and thus develop a bad habit (behavior J) of putting them off until the next day or the next day .. But truth is, that kind of tomorrow never comes or comes too late.
You have to stop this dangerous behavior before it destroys your goals. First important step is for you to acknowledge that YOU are the one and only person who can change this negative tendency. Next, write down your journal or planner, a specific date and time when you will do the task. Make that task easy to find in your journal/planner by underlining or highlighting it.
2. Impatience
Do you give up on something, immediately that thing is not working as expected? Try to give more time and patience to those projects that are not giving you desired results fast enough; don’t give – you might just be at the edge of breakthrough.
3. Anger
Watch it, anger is a destroyer! Identify what makes you angry and deal with it. People that are vital to your success could be sometimes very annoying but getting angry and fighting them will not get them on your side. Is it the people or you? Are you just tired and need to take a break? What is it? Identify it and deal with it. When tempted, pause and take a deep breath before you speak.
4. Being too aggressive
When you exhibit too much intensity in your words, behavior, deeds and actions, it can come across as aggression. Being too aggressive can push people away. And that is the exact opposite of what you want to do. Rather, you want to bring people to you for their guidance, assistance, ideas, services and patronage. Remember, nobody wants to be around someone who seems too intense and aggressive!
5. Negativity
Even if you are positive by nature, you may still (like me) exhibit a tendency to expect negative results. Stop negativity from disturbing your goals by viewing challenges as opportunities for creative solutions to keep your goals on track.
I know, through personal experience, that negative behavior is hard to change. But believe me, it is do-able and it becomes easier with practice. It is very important that you change because your behavior maybe preventing you from reaching your goals and achieving success. You need to work on changing your habits now so you’ll be ready to succeed more than ever before in 2013. Actually, you start noticing the difference once you begin to take a little step towards changing identified negative behaviors.
How can you break your negative behavioral patterns? That’s information for another day. In my next post, I will share with you five (5) effective ways to help you easily break bad habits and behaviors.
I am a Social Media Marketing Strategist and Facebook Marketing Expert, a business coach, seminar resource person, published and serial entrepreneur. I help businesses to get extraordinary results from their marketing campaign thus ensuring steady increase in their incomes.
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